There's only one way to have a happy marriage. As soon as I learn what it is, I'll do it again.

My guy friends and I were at one point, pretty tight knit, a second family if you will. We'd gather under one roof for a music and poker night, tackle each other in our own inventive ways in a rousing game of basketball, record our infamous blunders and naive experiences on video to laugh and ridicule each other over later, you name it. While we've managed to keep hold of our friendships while growing into our own separate lives, occasionally I look back and long for the bond we had back as seniors in high school. One thing in particular we shared was a love of sitcoms, and the one that all of us were crazy for was Friends.



To this day I'm watching their reruns as I do with most of my favorites that ended sooner than I anticipated. Certain episodes stick out in my memory, one of which was about each of them deciding who in the gang they wanted to partner up with as a 'backup choice' in case by a certain age they were still single. I never turned to my boys for this safety net as they feel like brothers to me, but watching that inventive idea unfold before my very eyes, I pondered over my current situation and immediately took action.



A guy a few years older than me that I met over the internet and created a close bond with was my first choice as the runner up in my love life in case I was still flying solo in my late 20's or early 30's. He was pretty into the pact, seeing as how well we clicked in personality (and he was good on the eyes to boot). He escorted me to a friends wedding a few years ago, and reaffirmed my decision to hold onto that catch if need be. As most people do, we drifted apart due to relocating and undergoing life altering experiences. He's now very happily involved with another woman, and has been for a few years now. There goes my get out of jail free card; damn.




So goes the years, fleeting by before me faster than my younger ones ever did! In a few months, I will be 24, and not much to show for it. The best part of my life is my daughter. A replica of myself in every way which brings dire annoyances to us both, but equally amazing with each passing moment we share together. I'm in a cute apartment parked on a hillside over looking downtown Olympia, one of the best cities in this country. I work with a great company who works around my needs for once, and whom I don't feel weighed down by. Writing has never been easier for me than it has been these days thanks to self preservation, and learning how to just let the stories come out rather than forcing a good read for an appreciative audience.




Not being a wife anymore isn't as horrific as I convinced myself it would be before I braved getting divorced back in 2006. Back then I thought 'who is going to stick around with someone who has already been married once and started a family'? A lot of guys really aren't running for the hills when my past comes up like I assumed. Maybe there is still hope for me yet, 24 is still very young...I just got to thinking about the back up plan a few minutes ago and wanted to share the insight to see if others have gone the same route or have also contemplated the option for themselves as well. I may have lost one guy to the Lovebug, but I know there's plenty more of lost puppies in the mix, and maybe one day I will wrestle myself up a new find for safe keeping. I'm too awesome to not be someones' Mrs....eventually. Crossing my fingers and a shitload of affirmations can only help right?.....




Like me, are you a "Man with a Plan"?

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